Many people decide they want to get divorced in a hurry. There are definitely a few pointers that any one person should clear out in their heads before they seriously contemplate divorce since it comes with its own set of implications especially if you have children in the marriage. It is a good idea to take a ‘divorce readiness’ test online to provide a clearer perspective. The first thing to do is to clear out in your head if you have tried everything humanely possible to make the marriage work. After this has failed, and you are convinced there is nothing further you can do, you are free to attempt to move on. After making a list of asset division, child custody and co-parenting, you may take the final legal steps to annulment.
Apart from the physical and monetary hurdles that might have been keeping you together, there might also be considerable emotional baggage you need to work through. If you feel you require serious psychological attention because of your married partner; that’s when you know you should move away from the marriage. A therapist might also let you see the loopholes that you missed which make the marriage unhealthy for you and keep you from real happiness and achievement.
Many marriage counselors and experts agree that when partners decide to get divorced on a whim, it is usually because they have not resolved all their issues as a couple. If you find yourself able to leave the marriage with a spirit of forgiveness and without aggression or anger; you are ready to take the final step. If you find yourself exhibiting behavior that is conducive to lashing out, it might be a deeply personal problem that has nothing to do with the marriage. Never take such a decision after a fight for example or any time when you are affected emotionally. Only when you find that you have no real love for your spouse anymore, is the right time to consider a divorce. Also, if you have currently no children, it might be a good idea to undo the knot before such complications hinder your decision. You should also be ready for a divorce if any kind of physical violence or mental harassment has taken place and contact the police as soon as possible to ensure your own safety. If you feel your partner will never change (which is almost always the case), that might also be solid grounds for a divorce.